my bossy!!!

hey all!!!

ever wondered if u have a friend you can look back on at any time of day/night or at any given situation in life???
you should, bcos after family....if anyone is gonna be by u, its gonna be this friend of ur's.

so yes i have this friend of mine, whom i call bossy. his real name is brijesh sereno!!
a darling person in this whole wide world. best nature, best character, best friend or family anyone can have and extremely polite n chilled out.
call him at any time anywhr and he is thr for u. but yes, just bcos he is a nice person u cant take him for granted.
after all........its r duty to respect a person for wat and who he is.

i love my bossy and so does my family. he is more like an elder brother to me. caring......loving......tries to dominate but fails to do so...... a chick at times :P and extremely responsible person.
his family is even better than him and his wife is a sweetheart.

one things he hates abt me, my clothes! always finds it less on my body. and yes, my girly behavior (which i usually bring up only when with him).
laughs at my ongoing updates he finds on BBM. r common love is....animated movies, coffees and discussing our common business and fun times with frnds.
i love to tease him and get angry when he doesnt keep me happy :P
if ever life allows him commit a mistake (he usually doesnt commit any), then he lands up doing it in front of me by mistake.......and lands up having his foot in his own mouth for life.

i met him through my ex-boyfrnd. and have maintained this friendship since then.
brijesh (bossy) is a support to me when im low and fun when im happy :D

but all said and done.......he the best person/friend and family anyone can have in this world.
and everyone in this world has the rights to have someone like BRIJESH in their life.

so yeah, go ahead people and find ur mr or ms brijesh and smile always for having them in ur life.
u'll feel lucky to have them. trust me!!!

thanks for all the love, care, fun u have had with me and guidance u have given me for life in life to lead a better future.

THANK U BOSSY!!
loads of love and good luck to michele and u in life :D
god bless u both!
stay happy and keep smiling!!
muah!!!

P.S:- if i left out on anything, sorry!

mess!!!

hey all!!!

well today im gonna share with you the nightmare i had whole of last week.

my mom got me a proposal. and understand!!! :P
well, this guy happens to be the son of a relative (a very complicatedly so relation. my mom's sister's {my masi} brother inlaws nephew. cousin nephew) so yeah, its kinda complicated and a funny relation web.

so this idea stuck my mom's mind in dec 2010, to which i had clearly said a NO. and i thought mom had forgotten about it after that. but to my surprise, mom hadnt. and she again raised it after 5 months on may.
again somehow i managed to wave it off me. but this time my mom crossed all limits possible. she spoke to the relatives an also fixed the date of meeting the boy's family last week and went ahead with all the procedures without informing me or discussing it with me.
and as i have mentioned it earlier, i was always against this proposal.

you all must be wondering, WHY??????
well, the reason for me being negative since day one about this proposal was extremely simple and clear in all means possible.

• this proposal was happening within the family. 
• the boy wasnt mature enough to take such a big responsibility.
• he was a mom's boy (pet to his mom, and would agree to anything n everything she says).
• he wasnt financially independent.
• did not know wat kinda girl he would want as a life partner.
• was in a relationship and was being forced into a marriage with me and did not have the guts to oppose and stand up for his love. 
• we did not know each other at all.
• and of all.........i did not like him or respect him for all that he was.......is.

so yeah, my reasons r clear. and also........i knew if i did say a NO, it would spoil the internal relations in the family among elders.

still, inspite of making everything so clear my mom went ahead and spoke regarding this proposal and went ahead with a series of meetings.
meeting the family (elders------elders)
meeting the boy (my parents--------boy)

and imagine my horror, they boy's family or the boy himself hadnt seen me and were ready to get us engaged.
i, being an independent girl through out fought and fixed a meeting with he boy.
meeting the boy (the boy, his brother---------me, my uncles)

and i wont lie to u all, this meeting was just a formality.
i knew my answer! it was a NO! (At any cost)
so yeah, as soon as the NO was out..........there was this big chaos in all the 3 families.
my mom and her brother were forcing it on me and so was the mediator family.(According to them, this was the best proposal i would have got in my life. be it till date or in future)
the boys family was obviously ready (in the boys house, his grandpa decides such things and he had said a yes to me, without even meeting me ones. but bcos he had said YES, the boy had to agree).

so according to the elders the engagement was to be held on sunday. early evening!
but i, said a NO and stood adamant on my decision.
sunday morning my uncle (dad's younger cousin {whom im extremely close to} came down from mumbai only for me) and dad went to the boy house and gave them my negative answer towards this proposal.
and after an hour...i went there only to land up seeing shocked faces.
yeah, in a marwari community (one of the most conservative Indian communities) a bride or to-be-bride doesnt go to the in-laws house or to the house whr the proposal in being spoken at without any prior information or permission.
so i went there and cleared my stand, by informing them that:-

• the reason y i said no to ur son was, i need time to think abt him and this proposal.
• engagement is to quick a step for a life long relation and decision.
• also kindly do not assume i have any affair with someone else so im rejecting ur son.

so very politely and in a neat manner i put across my view on this proposal and got back.
the next thing i got to hear is.......

• the boy's family themselves rejected me.
• their reason was:- girl is to bold, not homely and might be having an affair.
• very out going. 
• drinks
• smokes
• and is a lesbian. (why??????? bcos my FB albums show pics with more of girls than boys)

extremely stupid excuses?????? yup, i know! and even my family realized it soon after hearing such stuff. 
and bcos there were still some kinda awful fights going on, i made up my mind and came to mumbai along with my uncle (who stays here with family).
and yes, im enjoying it here and also watching all the cheap fights happening back there in chennai (my home town).
not fights but arguments between the boys family, the mediator family and my family.
and trust me....the boys family disgusts me with their thoughts, beliefs and ways.

its funny to know that even in today's world we get to see such families and learn about their beliefs............its just so NOT ACCEPTABLE.
i honestly pity the girl who would later be a part of that family.

god save the girl!!!
and bless these people with some brains.

and as i had mentioned earlier......yes, bcos this was a proposal in such close internal family relations.......the relation did get bitter and a lot of abusing, accusing and taunting happened.
which obviously left no prospects of getting ok in future anytime soon.
im sure it would take a few years till all is okay......

but all i would like to say is.......its not always the kids who r wrong. at certain places the parents should realize and understand that even we have the ability to see the good/bad and think good for ourselves as well as the family in general.
we do not always stand against you, but bcos u (parents) r always genuinely worried for us (kids)........u at times do not see wat would happen if things dont work out positively. thats were v try to prove u that we r ur kids and ur upbringing hasnt gone wrong anywhr AND u can feel proud of us.

so if any parent reading this, kindly sit back and think, atleast ones when ur child stands up against u. and for all of my age/below/above.......always have a reason, valid reason to go against ur parents.
make ur parents feel proud of u. not ashamed of ur birth.

i hope u all get to learn something out of this.
take care all!!

keep smiling!!! and spread smiles.......millions of it!

days and nights!!!

hey!!!

this is about the days and nights i spent with my guy...the best moments still fresh in me.
might be weird when u read it...but my mind is filled with it. spilling it out!

i remember the days when he shifted from his company guest house to a flat. far from my place...but dis distance never kept us apart. i was completing my final yr and he was working.
at 1st it was about settling down. furnishing the house with the most basic stuff, the most necessary stuff. how long he was to stay here was unknown. so major furnishing was not in picture.

we went shopping together (bean bag, curtains, bed spreads, some cleaning stuff), pillow was from me. he was bad at choosing stuff :P
settled!!! i visited him almost every other day, we did have eyes on us. the flat in which he stayed...the other building people would often stare and may b also passed dirty comments on us....specially ME.
but it just dint matter. bcos ones the door was locked....it was only the 2 of us. and nothing mattered more than those lovely moments v spent with each other. r intimate moments!!!
i remember those lovely things he would whisper in my ears while making love to me....smile!!! that's wat i did...my lips did.
v did not fix a time or day to love each other...just the touch was enough.
unlike a normal couple behaved...r relationship was quite weird. v fought all day long, for the stupid reasons possible and never ever tried to understand the other while or after the fight.
but just that smile when v looked at each other made us forget everything, r fights......r family issues......work or college issues. when v were together, it was just us. we forgot the world for those minutes :P
our world was with each other!

the night outs were difficult...but to stay together v managed all that would take for it. all that v wanted was to b together, nothing else.
i wouldnt eat til he has eaten, i would sleep only after a good night kiss (be it in person or over the phone), i would smile by just seeing his name flash on my mobile screen.....all of it was so pure, so deep and beautiful.
we broke up a 1000 times in 5 yrs and got back. we fought in front of r friends as well. but the love was strong so nothing could do us apart.

he would take care of my silly expenses even if i said "i have money dear, i earn as well. pls dont spoil me"
but his answer would be "i can afford ur SILLY expenses and love to take care of u, pamper u....dont take this away from me ever. pls!!! "
all this was so beautiful and loving! this was my world with him...it was our world!

he was here for about a yr or so...dont really remember. (we were so lost in each other that v hardly kept track of days or time) and this whole period of a yr or so is so fresh inside me even today. all i have to do is close my eyes and i c him...


now we both are married and happy with each-other. blessed by god, family and friends our love hasnt reduced at all...
infact r respect and love has only increased by each day...
we have a new member in our life....our daughter....our little buffy (dog).
the best thing ever happened to us and our life....

thr is so much to say or write rather...the space would end, but not my words.....feelings....emotions.

keep smiling!!!